That Foolish Young Man

I opened the car door fighting the tears but not the memories: my daughter’s delight, as I squeezed into that tiny plastic pool for a swim; the ride on that miniature Smurf train, over and over; the pride of her cheerleading and the wonder of watching her become a teenager: The stuffed animals are for decoration, Dad!

And my son: teaching him to go under water by accidentally dropping my keys in the deep end of the pool—followed by my pocket change; that glorious day hiking at Pinnacles National; and those treasured chess games I always lost—and no, not on purpose.

As I finally start the car, I can almost smile at the unfair wrestling matches, two against one, and a father that always went down, but not easily. 

Next week, my eyes will be tearing again because, you see, there was a divorce. 

Twenty 20

Looking back from the height of some decades, that divorce is just one of my many regrets.  If I could only write to that young, foolish know-it-all, pass on some simple insights.

And so I did. 

HE, of course, wouldn’t be interested in anything on this blog that even looked like advice, so it is a good thing I am a storyteller, a literary entertainer of sorts, and even he would enjoy the way these ideas are presented.

Perhaps if I had been in his life, that life might have gone a bit better, somewhat easier. 


I’d like to think so. 

He Thought He Was Weak

No matter what he tried, that young man (me) could not stick with even the smallest resolution (never mind the big ones at New Year’s).  ​He would joyfully start another change only to quit into the pain of another failure.


Yes, he thought he was weak; he hated himself for not having enough willpower.  If only he had known about The Most Failed Resolution of all Time.


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33 billion spent on weight loss (in 2020), while almost 2/3 of Americans continue to be overweight (Boston Medical Center). 

But what about all those amazing success stories?

Each and every one of those people had already deep-down decided to lose weight.  It did not matter what path they chose; they would have lost the weight with any, or none, of the “miracle” products.


And the same is true for every positive change.  When our decision comes from that deeper level, we are successful.  Without that deep decision, we end up fighting ourselves, and even when we succeed, it often does not last.


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He had been working so hard to succeed and was now desperate, his business deep in the red.​

​I asked him, “If there was one person on the planet holding you back, who would it be?” ​

​He immediately said, “My Mother.”

​She was giving him money to keep his business afloat. She had also given him the down payment for his house and had just taken over the payments. ​

His insight: "I'm 30 years old and still (like a child) dependent on my mother!"

The power of a deep insight is that it cannot be unseen; it tends to stay with us, prodding, pushing and motivating us into a permanent change.


For Him, that one insight put him on a path to becoming the man, and success, he had always wanted to be.

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