Raise Your Quality of Life
Higher Than It Has Ever Been
Oh, The Reality
That poor guy. Still bumping and tripping his way through the garage, instead of buying a new light bulb.
And her! She enjoys shopping but just put off buying those much-needed pants—again.
And that annoying (possibly dangerous) noise in the car? So many in this group cannot get around to having it looked at right away.
Well, you might be right, if that was all, but many of us put off eating, at times, as well as urinating, and we often end up without enough sleep.
Why? Because whatever we are doing is more important than what we need.
Just today, I was out biking and felt cold. I had a jacket with me and told myself that I would stop and put it on at the next light. The next light was green!
Making ourselves wait brings up the same negative emotions as when someone else puts us off or deny us.
Note: if you are not sure you have these emotions, watch your reactions when you tell yourself:
A little longer
For a long time, I was not aware of these feelings, but ignored or not, they still shaded a good day or further darkened a dim one.
Ah, but each time we take care of our needs immediately, we make ourselves happier for a moment. String a few of these together, and our quality of life rises.
Imagine someone who scores a 10 out of 10 for self-care: he never runs out of milk for his morning coffee, she immediately takes that tiny, irritating rock out of her shoe, and he always feeds himself when first hungry.
A Better Life?
The obvious next step is to take better better care of ourselves; but when we try, many of us encounter some inner-resistance.
With that resistance in mind, here are 3 steps to raising your life's quality.
1. Know that the reasons we give ourselves for Just a bit longer always sound logical, even compelling.
And they are almost never true.
2. Let go
At one point in my life, I decided (with a set jaw and steely eyes) to start feeding myself at the first sign of hunger.
When the next meal rolled around, I was busy and just wanted to finish up—something. I decided to stop and eat anyway, but came up with yet another reason for putting myself off (just a little longer).
As I pushed myself to eat, I realized that there was growing tension in my body. Struggling against myself?
Believe me, there is an easier way.
When making any resolution, let go of the steely eyes and set jaw; instead, make it a casual decision, quietly, softly.
Then, whenever you feel inner-resistance to taking action, relax before acting.
Take a deep breath, and when you let it go, release the tension in your body; release more tension with each out-breath that follows.
3. Know that giving yourself what you need, when you need it, is not selfish. In fact, making yourself more of a priority can raise your life and make it easier to give to those around you (raising their lives).
One of the most amazing feelings we can ever experience is that of someone caring about us, caring for us, like a mother with her beloved child.
It is a feeling that surrounds, supports and lifts; it makes life better no matter what else is happening.
And it is a feeling that you can experience more of—from you. So, do that. Go on a campaign to give yourself what you need when you need it.
It might be best to work with one issue at a time but make this your goal:
experience more of that miraculous feeling
To show you the kind of deep Support I can give you
As an Intuitive Counselor
And if you never make an appt.
The giving is good
(and, of course, comes back)
So, yes, fully enjoy the surprising Lift this simple idea can give your Life.
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In the Meantime?
Better self-care can give your life an amazing lift, but not immediately. If you are like me and want better sooner, how about 10 minutes?
This simple change can boost your day-to-day right now.
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I began this in-ward journey on Feb. 10, 1971
Over the decades, I have
* Guided individuals and workshops
* Written 6 books, plus 1 for young adults & 2 for children
* Written a nationally-syndicated newspaper column
* Hosted a radio talk show on creating positive change
* And you can find me on Twitter and YouTube (@DanielSperaw )