(88/89) A Simple Way to Stand Up For Yourself

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In a what's-wrong-with-you voice, she asked, “You really like that song?”


I stomped down on a rush of defensiveness. That voice always has me scrambling, trying to come up with some logical, hopefully significant, reasons to show that I have good taste, that my choice is a good one.


She cleared her throat, waiting for an answer. Not having one, I looked away.


Our society nearly demands that we appear logical at all times, that we have good reasons for our every choice. And to admit that the basement in any way runs the upper stories is close to heresy.


So, go ahead, pile the wood around the stake. I confess.


When something new comes up, I immediately like it, don’t like it or don’t care. There is no inner-prompting, no thought and certainly no decision.


Really, I have no idea why I love peppermint-fudge-ripple ice cream and dislike, okay hate, those peanut-chip, cookie-frosted cones.


But it is not just ice cream, and it is not just me.


A study showed that when most people buy a car, they do it emotionally: they first see, fall in love and sign the papers. At that point, they begin coming up with all the clearly logical reasons why it was the best choice, the only choice.


She asked, “You’re not going to answer me?”


Since I did not choose to like this song, what could I tell her?


That is when I remembered: "Whenever you are feeling defensive, turn the question back onto them.”


So, I took a breath, looked up and asked, “You don’t you like this song?”


She opened her mouth, paused and then stammered, “I, I don’t know. I guess it's alright.”



But What About Sarcasm?


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His business was deep in the red, and he was now desperate.


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She was giving him money to keep his business afloat.


She had also given him the down payment for his house and had recently taken over the payments. ​


His insight: "I'm 30 years old and still (like a child) dependent on my mother!"


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Stop Being So Defensive

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-dance-connection/201311/stop-being-so-defensive







10 Powerful Ways to Stand Up For Yourself

https://www.success.com/10-powerful-ways-to-stand-up-for-yourself-in-any-situation/







The very foundation of personal improvement is self-care/self-love. At this link:

https://www.danielsperaw.com/blog/the-essence-of-personal-improvement




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