(140) Bullying? How to Let Go of that Moment (once and for all)

Updated: Jul 27



I was on the playground being taunted by three bullies, all using that awful sing-song (what's-wrong-with-you) voice.

Face burning, I edged away, eyes on the ground.

As young as I was, I knew it was a lie: Sticks and stones... but words can never hurt me.

Decades later, I came across this awful quote: No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

And I thought: No! People can make us feel inferior, make us feel badly. Words do hurt, and all of the quotes, rhymes and platitudes only serve to help us bury the truth of those feelings.


Bullying Buried


Anytime we are emotionally abused (which can even be a silent judgement), many of us fill our minds with thoughts that range from what we wish we had said or done to what we wish would happen to the abuser.

Those thoughts, along with the rhymes, quotes and platitudes, all help us stop feeling awful. The body helps too, by tightening and squeezing the breath.

But is stopping those negative emotions so bad? No, it is not. And, yes it is.

No, because a part of those emotions include feeling weak, small, or 'less than.' And, who wants to feel that? !

And Yes, because stopping them adds to our emotional baggage; that is, whatever we do not feel from a traumatic moment is left behind. But allowing those feelings lets them pass through and out, lightening our lives, bit by bit.

Plus, there is an inner strength that comes from facing our emotional truth. And we add to that strength every time we feel what we do not want to feel.


Letting Go of The Abuser

(once and for all)

The problem with ignoring our emotional baggage is that it does not stay ignored. Those thoughts keep coming up at odd moments, along with the negative emotions (in a way, the abuser is still hurting us).

But each time we face the negative, face those feelings, we are standing up to the abuser and releasing ourselves. Eventually, we will think about him/her less and less often, not just because time has passed but because those thoughts and feelings are weakening, disappearing.


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Note: if there is any sarcasm or put-down humor in your life, here is a simple way to stop it all: Stop Their Sarcasm & Put Down Humor


This was one of my most startling positive changes:

https://www.danielsperaw.com/single-post/How-to-Stop-Being-Irritated-by-Noise

The very foundation of personal improvement is self-care/self-love. Here is that link: https://www.danielsperaw.com/blog/the-essence-of-personal-improvement


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