Updated: Aug 26
A shoelace breaks, sink backs up, car won’t start and so it goes. The roof leaks, more taxes owed and sometimes it is just overwhelming.
But overwhelmed or not, I complained about it all: the car breaking, being broke, breaking in new shoes or no break in the cold.
If someone said, “Nice (weather),” I would say, “Yeah, but (it's going to rain Friday)." And I am quite sure that more than a few people went out of their way to avoid me.
Why that tendency to complain?
Every time something goes wrong, we experience a negative feeling, and complaining brings us some measure of relief. But there are much more effective ways to release that negativity (Release Negative Emotion (like bitterness) Forever).
Which means we really do not need to complain -- at all. And we certainly do not need the way it brings us down (along with those around us).
Instead, step up to the first level.
Those who stop all complaining find themselves living a better quality of life. Not sure you believe it? Try it for short time. Even a week could convince you to go all the way.
Every time I crushed a positive statement (Yeah, but it's going to rain Friday), I noticed an awkward pause or an abrupt end to the conversation. Until one day, I agreed, Yes, it is a beautiful day.
I felt a lift in my mood and realized that they did too; so I amped it up. When someone said, Beautiful day isn’t it? I would respond Oh, I love days like this, and tomorrow is going to be even better.
Not with fake enthusiasm or forced positivity, but genuine words spoken quietly.
This felt so good that I began making positive statements of my own -- regularly -- and became a Yeasayer.
Level One: Silence (instead of complaining)
Level Two: Agreeing into Yea Saying
In the market one day, I asked the clerk, “How’s your day?”
He quietly said, “Great. This is a good day.”
I was surprised by the lift I felt, mostly because his words were genuine, but also because there was nothing special going on in his life. He was simply feeling grateful. But wait!
A lot has been written on the practice of gratitude, but what is coming is less than you might think. And more.
MORE - Without one, essential element, being grateful does not work; that is, words alone are not enough. Words said out of habit, or because of a should, have no effect on our lives (e.g. automatically giving thanks before a meal).
However, feeling grateful here and there, throughout the day, can give us a deeper, brighter, more positive outlook; and some believe this practice also acts as a magnet, attracting more good things into our lives.
LESS (than you might think) - Of course, the practice includes feeling grateful for the big things, but it is just as (or more) effective to appreciate the small, everyday ones; you know, the take-for-granted-little stuff that does work and does go right.
If adding more gratitude to your life sounds good, help yourself remember by linking those grateful moments to something you already do: eating, putting on your shoes or starting the car. And consider doing it 2 or 3 times in the morning and again in the afternoon.
So, there you have it. From the negative depths of complaining to the heights of yeasaying and gratitude. A better life. For us. And those around us.
Note - There are those who do not think the practice of gratitude works (or visualizing or affirmations). This is because they quit too soon; persistence is the key; continue the practice long after you are sure it does not work!
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Some additional thoughts on complaining can be found here:
10 Ways Complaining Less Will Make You Happier: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-ways-to-complain-less-and-be-happier/
What’s It Like to Go Without Complaining for a Month.
Here is a way to quickly relax that even works standing with your eyes open?