Updated: Aug 31, 2020
A quiet afternoon suddenly shattered by a high-pitched barking. A new mutt in the next yard yapping with a ridiculous ferocity.
And it went on for hours. I finally walked out and looked over the fence; he was barking at a bug!
The next morning, he started again, early, and kept at it for most of the day. He would stop but then start up again, as if his life depended on it.
Day after day it went on. Not all day, but far beyond my limits, and I found myself sending more than a few negative thoughts toward him, the neighbor and life in general.
I could not understand why they were not bothered! Just shut him up!! Please!!!
And then one afternoon, I realized he had not been barking for a while. Several days! And my next thought was Did he die? Oh, please God!
Later that day, I heard him barking again. The noise was just as piercing; he went on for just as long; and I realized that he had never stopped!
It was me that had stopped being bothered!
After that, he did sometimes irritate me, but after a few minutes, his noise would again fade into the background.
How did it happen, this miracle? I will tell you, but you will probably not like it.
Whether the noise is a barking dog, loud party or jack hammer, it is not the noise that bothers us, but the negative feelings they spark.
Those feelings are already within us patiently waiting for someone, or something, to push the button and release them. Again. And again.
Of course, we (automatically) tighten body and breath to stop feeling that way. And we (desperately?) distract ourselves, to do or to think about anything else. Which leaves most of those feelings in there, waiting for the next irritating whatever.
Now imagine your life without those feelings. The dog, jackhammer or wild party simply would not stand out, would not bother you -- at all.
Okay, here is the part you might not like.
The way to get rid of those feelings is to stop fighting them, stop distracting and start feeling.
We either feel what we do not want to feel right now or we continue to feel it at odd times for the rest of our lives.
3 Steps to Freedom
1) Give the noise permission to be there; let it be loud and irritating (I know, crazy, but try it anyway).
2) Each time you breathe out, release more tension from the body; breathe easily and relax in spite of the noise.
* Note - If your mind tends to skip away from your breath (probably every few seconds), gently bring yourself back to breathing out the tension and relaxing.
3) And let yourself feel the emotion(s).
Every moment you feel a negative emotion releases that much more of it -- bit by bit.
And there will come a time when that awful noise (dog or otherwise) no longer bothers you - at all.
Just One Emotion?
Did you know that some people are limited to feeling one, main emotion (e.g. irritation/anger)? Others feel a variety of emotions and would love to get rid of the negative ones. Either way...
All She Ever Wanted Was...
Her: She was saying, “If only I could find the right guy, I would give myself to him, and—
I stopped her and asked, “Give your SELF?”
Her eyes widened as she realized what she had said and what she had been doing.
Him: Free Insights
His business was deep in the red, and he was now desperate.
I asked him, “If there was one person on the planet holding you back, who would it be?”
He immediately said, “My Mother.”
She was giving him money to keep his business afloat.
She had also given him the down payment for his house and had recently taken over the payments.
His insight: "I'm 30 years old and still (like a child) dependent on my mother!"
Both Him & Her: The power of a deep insight is that it cannot be unseen; it will tend to keep prodding, motivating and pushing Him and Her into a permanent change (no resolutions needed).
And That Power is Now Yours:
Either one of these 2 simple techniques can bring you a life-changing insight, one that leads to permanent change.
Both are complete (nothing held back)
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But one, eye-widening moment can begin leaving that pain behind
* Imagine seeing the present and past in an instant and knowing that it is no longer you
* Imagine taking control over that part of your life
* And imagine the relief of knowing that you are finally moving on, once and for all.
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And here are some immediate things you can do to stop a barking dog (from Life Hacker):
Forgive yourself and stop new guilt too:
The very foundation of personal improvement is self-care/self-love. At this link: https://www.danielsperaw.com/blog/the-essence-of-personal-improvement