(148) Healthy Relationships as THEY Ask About YOU

Updated: Mar 13, 2019


A relationship is too often a competition between two people who want to talk about themselves, and a part of that competition is the 128 billion dollars we (women and men) spent worldwide on products last year (not including clothes, shoes or jewelry).


Many of us buy these products hoping to get people to look, to really see us and be interested in the details of our lives).


Some time ago, I stood at the edge of a crowded room and watched a very short, unattractive woman move between individuals and groups. People lit up as she approached. They seemed very happy that she was joining them.


Most of us would love a welcome like that (more often?) and, even better, to have people interested enough to remember and ask about the details of our lives.

But unless we are planning to become rich / famous, there is only one way to get people more interested us.


The F O C U S


You already know that we tend to like people who like us, people who are interested in us; and we often want a deeper connection with those who want it with us first.


But how can we do that while worrying about those extra pounds, that crooked tooth, or “Wait until they see my new--,” or wondering if that new hair product, wrinkle remover or accessory is impressing them?


And so, THE CHOICE: struggle to keep the focus on us (in thought and word) or shift outward a bit more than we might like.


Think of 3 questions for the next human you will see, 3 things you genuinely want to know: about them, their interests, their situation.


Then listen. And remember (even take notes afterward) It will not be long before they ask more questions of you, maybe right then. If, after a while, they do not, put your interest and questions into those who do.


And one way to speed this process is by looking happy to see them.

But whether with a smile or questions, the key is to reach deep and be genuine, because faking never works (like a smile that does not reach the eyes or questions who answers are forgotten).


Consider beginning with one person, and when it begins working there, add another.


And it won’t be long before you too have people happier to see you coming, even if you stop using a product or two.

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Why Can't We Stop

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Eating/drinking what we know we will regret

Staying up too late with tv, social media or a novel—again Pushing to get too much done (with too little down time) Delaying yet another meal?

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For more on this topic, here are two links:

Build Deeper Relationships

https://www.lifehack.org/304931/small-things-wonderful-people-tht-build-deep-relationships


10 Ways to Create a Strong, Intimate Relationship

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-ways-to-create-a-strong-intimate-relationships/





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