Updated: Aug 31
The ONLY Time Self-Care Makes a Difference
Oh, that poor guy, still bumping and tripping his way through a dark garage, instead of buying a light bulb.
And her! Even though she likes to shop, she just put off buying those much-needed pants—again.
And they just cannot get around to having that annoying noise in the car looked at much less fixed.
Well, you might be right, if that was all, but these people also put off eating, at times, as well as urinating, and they often end up without enough sleep too.
Because whatever they are doing is more important than they are, more important than their basic needs.
Just today, I was out biking and felt cold. I had a jacket with me and told myself that I would stop at the next light and put it on.
The next light was green. And yes, I kept going.
Every time we put off one of our needs, we experience a negative emotion: the same emotion we feel when someone else puts us off or deny us. If you are not sure you have these feelings, begin watching your reactions when you tell yourself: Not now; Not Yet; A little later; or No.
For a long time, I ignored those feelings, but ignored or not, they still shaded a good day or further darkened a dim one.
How would you rate the quality of life for those people? Personally, I would give us a four out of ten; but that number goes up a bit each time we take better care of ourselves.
Like those amazing people who never run out of milk for their morning coffee, who feed themselves when they are first hungry, and who immediately take that tiny, irritating rock out of their shoe.
They also give themselves enough sleep, as well as head for the toilet when they first feel the need.
Their quality of life? Having looked up from the bottom of my four for so long, I would have to give them a 10—at least.
You might think that raising your life’s quality would be easy. Right? Just choose a way to take better care of yourself and get to work. The problem is that most of us encounter some inner-resistance.
With that resistance in mind, here are the 3 tips:
1. Know that the reasons we give ourselves for postponing and denying always sound logical and compelling. And are almost never true.
2. Know that giving yourself what you need, when you need it, is not selfish. In fact, making yourself more of a priority can make it easier to give to those around you.
3. And most of all, relax. I didn't.
I decided (with a set jaw and steely eyes) to start feeding myself at the first sign of hunger.
When the next meal rolled around, I was busy and just wanted to finish up—something. I decided to stop and eat anyway, but came up with yet another reason for waiting (just a bit longer).
I realized that this struggle was putting tension in my body and that it was easier to take care of myself if I relaxed before taking action.
It is also better to relax before deciding to make any positive change. Make them quietly, gently (without the steely eyes and set jaw), to help eliminate that inner struggle later.
The Best Ever
One of the most amazing feelings we can experience is that of someone caring about us, caring for us. It is a feeling that surrounds, supports and lifts; it makes life better no matter what else is happening.
And it is a feeling that you can experience more of—from you. So, do that. Go on a campaign to give yourself what you need, when you need it, because you deserve that feeling much more often.
When is the ONLY time self-care can make a difference?
When is the only time you can raise your quality of life?
Now! Right now!!
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3 Powerful Ways to Lift Your Life
All She Ever Wanted Was...
Her: She was saying, “If only I could find the right guy, I would give myself to him, and—
I stopped her and asked, “Give your SELF?”
Her eyes widened as she realized what she had said and what she had been doing.
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His business was deep in the red, and he was now desperate.
I asked him, “If there was one person on the planet holding you back, who would it be?”
He immediately said, “My Mother.”
She was giving him money to keep his business afloat.
She had also given him the down payment for his house and had recently taken over the payments.
His insight: "I'm 30 years old and still (like a child) dependent on my mother!"
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Here is more on following your heart:
From Psychology Today, here are 17 Ways to Take Better Care of Yourself.
The very foundation of personal improvement is self-care/self-love. Here is that link: https://www.danielsperaw.com/blog/the-essence-of-personal-improvement
Emotional Release is easy if you stop saying I'm Fine and know this trick: https://www.danielsperaw.com/single-post/The-Worlds-Biggest-Lie-Im-Fine-an-easy-way-to-tell-the-truth