The Truth About Self-Love (& using it to change your life)

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Truth: Self-love is not about feelings. No emotion, at all .

Truth: Self-love is difficult to increase.

Truth: Increasing self-love automatically ups self-esteem, inner strength (along the way) and, of course, the quality of life.

You ?

Of the many ways to not love ourselves, here are a few of mine:

* When I have felt tired, I pushed myself instead of taking a few minutes of downtime.

* When there was a tiny rock in my shoe, I have started looking for a good place to stop and take it out -- instead of just taking it out.

* Sometimes, on a warm day, I have left without enough warmth for later, thinking, “Oh, it won’t be that cold.”

* And I have also tended to put off eating at times, urinating too, and in other ways delayed making myself comfortable.

And the reason is always the same.

Whatever I am doing is more important than I am, more important than my basic needs.

It Ain't Easy

Self-love is about taking action to treat ourselves better, and it can be a struggle that includes irritation, frustration, and other negative emotions.

So, why do it?

Each time we do not feel like taking better care of ourselves, but do it anyway, inner strength increases automatically; and so does self-esteem (what we think of ourselves).

Giving more to ourselves can also make it easier to give to those around us, improving our relationships. Best of all, our quality of life continues to rise.

And yes, the increases are small but add up to a better us living a better life.

The Struggle

To experience the difficulty of increasing self-love, all you have to do is choose a way to take better care of yourself -- and start doing it. Like this.

I decided to start feeding myself at the first sign of hunger but made the mistake of using a tough ‘I’m going to make this happen’ attitude.

When the next meal rolled around, I just wanted to finish up… something. After some moments, I decided to eat anyway but came up with another reason to delay. I realized I was in a struggle, of sorts, a struggle that continued to pop up at meals way too often.

The reasons we give ourselves for delaying (or denying) always sound compelling.

But once set aside, they rarely turn out to be true.

Increase Love Anyway

Releasing Inner Tension

1. When deciding to make a positive change (any change), a tough attitude sets the foundation for struggle and, too often, eventual quitting.

Instead, before making your resolution, breathe out any tension; then, with a relaxed body and easy breathing, gently

decide on the change.

2. And, before taking action, again breathe out any tension. Relaxing body and breath can make it easier to ignore those ‘important’ reasons to delay.

3. Progress is faster when focusing on one change at a time.

4. Above all, if you forget, or fail to act, be kind and gentle with yourself.

Using Self-Love to Change Your Life?

Continuing to make life better for yourself will raise your quality of life - a bit each time. Self-esteem (what you think of yourself) will also rise, and so does inner strength (when you do not feel like taking care of yourself but do).

Above all, one of the most amazing feelings we can experience is that of someone caring about us, caring for us. It is a feeling that surrounds, supports and lifts; it makes life better no matter what else is happening.

And it is a feeling that you can experience more of —from you. So, do that. Go on a campaign to give yourself what you need, when you need it, because you deserve to feel loved -- more often.

Besides... How you treat yourself is how you invite the world to treat you.

A Deep Insight Can Bring Permanent Change

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Like this...

His business was deep in the red, and he was now desperate.

I asked, “If there was one person on the planet who is holding you back, who would it be?”

He immediately said, “My Mother.”

She was giving him money to keep his business afloat. She had also given him the down payment for his house and had recently taken over the payments.

His insight: "I'm 30 years old and still (like a child) dependent on my mother!"

The power of a deep insight is that it cannot be unseen. It tends to stay with us, prodding, pushing and motivating us into a permanent change.

Overweight, money problems, unfulfilling relationships or a stalled career? One eye-widening moment can begin leaving that pain behind.


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She was saying, “If only I could find the right guy, I would give myself to him, and—"

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Yes, a deep insight can push us into a permanent change, and yes, you don’t need me. Who is This Guy?

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